Ask a blogger with a boyfriend ‘who takes your photos?’ and more likely than not, the answer will be her significant other. One of the most common grievances that I hear from my friends in the industry is how hard it is to produce great quality images on a consistent basis when they don’t have a dedicated man with a cam. If you look at some of the most successful bloggers out there like Kristina Bazan and Chiara Ferragni, their rise to success had a lot to do with their equally talented boyfriends. Not having an artistically inclined boyfriend or in fact, any boyfriend at all obviously doesn’t spell the end of a potential online career. Personally, my boyfriend only takes photos for me when we’re on holiday as we’ve been doing long distance for four years now, so I’ve had to rely on other ways to create (you can read how I choose photographers to work with here). Oh yeah, and apparently his mum did his art GCSE for him (sorry for outing you babe) so it’s not like there’s an 80’s power ballad and smoke machines when we shoot – there’s a lot of communication and patience needed from both of us. For those of you that have a blog and a partner that maybe doesn’t always step up to help out – maybe this is something your guy should read.
It took a while for my boyfriend to happily take my photos. He’s my best ear when I tell him about any potential projects I have coming up, when I show him work from new photographers I want to work with or ask him his opinion on which products I should feature. However, at the beginning, photos were a whole other story – probably because it involves an individual standing in the cold and wind with a camera, under the scrutiny of those passing by. It all started off with me telling him that I need help with shooting products and outfits. He would accompany me to buy the flowers I need for my flatlays and even sacrifice some of our alone time so I can run off to a shoot somewhere. When we are abroad where I have no contacts and I am in definite need of his assistance, some lengths he’s gone to helping me include standing on top of a table on tiptoes (don’t worry not in a public place haha) and nearly getting knocked into traffic on the streets of Tokyo.
Not bragging or anything but I’ve perched on the edge of rooftops trying to contain an impending nip slip and waded through murky water in an almost-sheer dress. I’m particularly gifted at inspiring road rage when posing in traffic but I’m still not as annoying as cyclists (sorry, couldn’t resist). My boyfriend knows about all of this, as frivolous as some of it sounds. Quite quickly he realised that blogging is not a cute hobby that I can look back on. He knows that it takes every weekend, packed with shoots and collaborations to make something. And if you’re at that point, the key thing that your significant other needs to realise is that social media is a form of work. And has funny as the viral videos can be, in a relationship, everyone needs to acknowledge how important their role is in being a success.
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